A guy meets a girl, they find each other interesting, go out together for a while, all's rosy and amazing for three months, and then suddenly they meet other guys and girls, and everything's over, usually with one big heartbreak.
Two people studying in the same school/college get interested in each other, get to know each other better, talk about everything (including spending the rest of their lives together), stay together for a few years, and then the illusion evaporates for one or both of them.
Or maybe the exact opposite happens.. maybe things DO work out after all and they (as Baz Luhrmann would like to say) dance the funky chicken at their 75th wedding anniversary. The question is, how do you KNOW until you've TRIED?
One thing, of course, is to go extremely slowly. Know the person for a year or two, their ins and outs, their goals/ambitions/desires/adaptability/mumbo-jumbo, and then decide whether to be together or not. This might work for some people, but then it isn't really falling in love.. its more like putting all the variables into some goddamn equation for horizontal and vertical velocity and factoring in the hardness of the place you're about to land in. It formalizes love, makes it a calculated gamble instead of the wild, growing, mutually nurturing thing it should be.
That obviously doesn't mean that you end up going out with every random stranger you meet.. but you also don't need to know every small detail to even think about a person seriously. After all... hope is a good thing, maybe even the best of things...
"You're afraid of me! You're afraid that I won't love you back! Fuck it, I wanna give it a shot! At least I'm honest with you. " - Minnie Driver in Good Will Hunting
That just about sums up a very common attitude towards relationships... fear of rejection or of the fact that things won't work out. Well, what if they don't? You'll be hurt, sure... perhaps you gave your 110% but things still didn't work out...then what? Is it all over? Is life done with? Most importantly, was that time wasted?
My answer to this is NO. After all, what is life but the sum of the experiences you've had while you lived? Its the journey which matters, because everyone's destination is the same. A bond which lasted a few years and then ended was not a waste of those years. Instead, in all probability, it made both parties evolve into better people, and enriched their lives in a way that only they could, for each other. As Lord Tennyson would put it, its always better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
Lastly, of course, there are moments. Things that no one can ever steal away from you... the most special things that people do together... be it walking together down a moonlit beach or just having an ice cream fight... these are things that no one can EVER take away from a person, no matter what happens. And in the end, these are probably ALL that count. After all, life isn't about the number of breaths you take, but about the moments that take your breath away....
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so finally i know what the retrospection led to....as to the post...there is something called "one life,one love"..and then if you really care enuf...u gotta be patient and allow life to introduce that one destined person and make things work out...it aint exactly an equation solving and definitely not as repulsive a procedure as u made it sound to be...its more of creating a beautiful artform of this journey called life..where u fill in something,your soulmate does something and destiny blends them up together to give you the final masterpiece we call a successful lovelife...but then,"to each one his own " is something which is true for this topic..
They ARE the things that count. Im not sure what you mean by everyone's destination in life being the same (unless of course, you mean happiness) but nothing EVER goes waste.
But what you've talked about isnt calculative. Love isnt something that can be morphed on a graph. It isnt something that is definite and absolute for all. Each person loves in a different way. This may not be YOUR idea of love, but it may be someone else's. Who are we to say, anyway?
Excuse the digression here, but I cant help it. This post is very, very freaky because I just finished writing this story after 4months, thinking that finally written something that was genuine and honest..and here you are, talking about "moments" and..
"And in the end, these are probably ALL that count. After all, life isn't about the number of breaths you take, but about the moments that take your breath away...."
(Well, I know now that what I've written may atleast be 0.25 % not-so-bad..)
Beautiful, Shreyas. So much more so because you are still capable of talking sense. There is no bitterness here. How amazing is that?
ps-Baz Luhrrmann is a GENIUS. Moulin Rouge is one of my ultimate favourites.
I agree when you talked about plotting love out on a graph. So I'd like that, but I'm going to trim that piece right there. And no, that doesn't figure anywhere in my plans either.
No journey, and we're talking journeys and not trips, is complete without dead-ends, short-cuts, dusty by-lanes, traffic-jams, surprise U-turns, pathways double-lined with trees or a fresh-lime juice seller around the corner. Sometimes you have what can only be defined as, "tough luck, mate". Sometimes you find gold at the end of the rainbow. I don't think you can reach a place if you keep sitting in the car, know what I mean?
And that's the best thing about moments. Some of them are enough to keep living. Sometimes you've never actually lived till you've done something you can never forget.
wonderful. but no one ever "decides" to fall in love... may be some ppl are slow - but they aren't computing the risks - n its not maths. love just happens. may b it takes some time for some. after all - falling in love is spontaneous... not everyone loves falling down.
Very very poetic. I honestly doubt I could produce stuff like that. Well done.
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